Relate MTB’s advice for avoiding festive fall-outs
Christmas can put an added strain on relationships and if you are already experiencing issues then added ‘festive pressures’ such as financial woes and family rows can push things to breaking point.
Have a conversation now about what’s not working , just starting to have those difficult conversations can take some of the pressure off before you’re all jammed in at home together for a week.
Relate MTB counsellors provide professional relationship counselling for couples, families and individuals all year round with counselling rooms in our local communities. Below are our tips to avoid falling-out over the festive break.
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Relate’s advice for avoiding Christmas fall-outs
DO agree a budget. Sit down with your partner and decide what you want Christmas to look like, versus what you can actually afford and agree a budget. This might take some compromise, particularly if you have different attitudes to money. Keep checking in so there aren’t any nasty surprises come January.
DO divide up tasks. Talk about what needs to happen, such as buying presents, tidying the house, preparing food and decorating. Divide up tasks based on your skills and interests and empower the kids by getting them to choose which chores they will do.
DO carve out me and us time. When you’re with a big family group for several days, it’s important to take time out so you don’t burn out. Go to your room for a while and enjoy a cuddle or get up early to go for a morning run together. Have a bath to relax and unwind.
DON’T let it fester. If your partner does something to upset you, ask them if you can talk to them in private rather than kicking off in front of the family. If there are guests around, head to the garden or go together to run an errand and discuss things properly then.
DO give people equal attention. You may have your favourite relatives who you prefer to hang out with or a child who you have a particularly strong bond with or common interests with, but try to make an effort with everyone so that people don’t feel left out or unwanted.
DON’T drink too much booze. It can be tempting to get carried away on Christmas Day, particularly if conversation isn’t flowing easily or if somebody has rubbed you up the wrong way. Unfortunately, too much alcohol when you’re already in a bad mood can be a recipe for an unmerry Christmas and an awkward New Year.