New Family Mediation Service in Aylesbury & High Wycombe

A new mediation service for couples and families is launching in Aylesbury and High Wycombe.

Relate MTB is hosting specialised support negotiating practical, financial and child care arrangements for couples who are separating. Hourly sessions are available from April.

Family Mediator Lesa Hall, says: “Separating is such a difficult, vulnerable and emotional time for couples, whether or not children are involved. Skilled and empathetic mediation can help couples to keep communicating effectively over child care arrangements, financial concerns and the separating of assets in the same way that Relate MTB relationship counselling provides emotional pathways.”

Family mediation is required as a first step before applying to the courts to resolve issues around divorce and separation and can cover child care arrangements, financial concerns and the separating of assets. Although there is a fee for each session, professional mediation can be a cost effective way of resolving a dispute when weighed up against a long, drawn out legal battle.

Adding the new service means that local couples, families and individuals can access all services in one local, convenient place.

Lesa adds: “I hope that the mediation service in Aylesbury and High Wycombe becomes a first call for people who are separating. It can also be used by people who have been in dispute for some time and feel they are at a standstill. We look after our clients and take them through this journey, working towards a resolution is our primary goal.”

To make a family mediation appointment through Relate MTB please call 01296 427973 or email enquiries@relatemtb.co.uk

 

Relate receives donation from Bucks’ Freemasons

Bucks’ Freemasons recently donated £1000 through the Heart of Bucks Foundation to Relate Mid Thames and Buckinghamshire to purchase a new computer and some phone compatible headsets for use by the counsellors and appointments team.

We have a head office in Maidenhead, and offices throughout Buckinghamshire and East Berkshire and although Relate MTB is a member of the national Relate Federation we are an entirely independent charity, relying on fundraising to provide professional counselling to local people regardless of their ability to pay, through its Bursary Funding Scheme.

Relate MTB counsels more than 1,000 people of all ages in the local area each year, on matters such as depression, cancer (in association with Macmillan nurses), mental health issues and all types of relationship problems, (including loneliness).

Fiona Greenfield, the Centre Director of Relate Mid Thames and Buckinghamshire, said: “We would like to thank Bucks Freemasons for this very generous donation. Our appointments team and counsellors work extremely hard for our clients and having the use of a modern headset to talk will leave them able to take notes while taking calls from clients.”

Andrew Hough, secretary of the Bucks Masonic Centenary Fund, added: “Relate does extremely necessary and important work throughout our area and we are very pleased to be able to help them with this donation. It is just one of the varied ways in which Bucks Freemasons’ core values of Friendship, Integrity and Charity are used to benefit the local community and underline our commitment to assisting all the members of our society.”

More information on Bucks’ Freemasonry can be found at: www.buckspgl.org

For more about Relate Mid Thames & Buckinghamshire’s services visit: www.relatemtb.co.uk

The picture shows Fiona Greenfield, Centre Director of Relate Mid Thames & Buckinghamshire, juggling the phone whilst trying to take notes.

 

 

We’re good at talking – invite us to your group

March 2018

Relate MTB plays an important role in our communities’ wellbeing and one of our counsellors was pleased to meet an active community group to talk about the difference we make.

Marlow Bridge Rotary Club gained an expert insight into the vital role of Relate’s relationship counselling. As a small, local charity we make no profit from our services – in fact we need more donations to help us meet the cost of providing professional counselling to local individuals, couples and families regardless of their ability to pay.

The Rotary members were surprised by the wide range of counselling we provide for people of all ages – improving mental health and wellbeing, enabling separated couples to continue to co-parent, supporting step families in building new, healthy relationships, helping older people’s relationships to thrive, counselling for cancer patients and their carers, identifying victims of coercion and abuse, and offering sex therapy.

We enjoyed meeting everyone and thank Marlow Bridge Rotary Club for their support.

If you would like Relate MTB to speak at your community group meeting, please email enquiries@relateMTB.co.uk

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6 ways for singletons to celebrate Valentine’s Day

 

Our expert counsellors at Relate MTB do not just offer help to couples. Our wide range of expertise can help in lots of different situations.

Read our counsellors’ tips for singles on how to survive Valentine’s Day:

Valentine’s Day is all about love – so have a lovely time anyway! Show yourself some love with a comforting treat or two and share the love among your friends and family. Nothing will cheer you up like being appreciated for your effort and thought.

Have a Pals Party

However much it feels like you are the only one without a sweetheart on Valentine’s Day, you won’t be – so host a party to celebrate relationships with friends and invite your single mates round for a treat-filled evening of food, friendship and fun.

Spend the rest of the week out and about

Book up a hectic social life for every other night of the week so that on Valentine’s evening you’re grateful for an early Wednesday night. From exercise classes to get your endorphins – or happy hormones – going, to inviting friends round for a pancake party on Shrove Tuesday (the day before Valentine’s) there’s lots to keep you busy.

Treat yourself

Spoil yourself on Valentine’s Day – why would you want to waste money on a Valentine anyway? Buy yourself that special something you have really wanted for ages. After all, you are the one who knows exactly what you like so there is no opportunity to get it wrong and have to put on that pretend  ‘It’s just what I wanted’ face.

Treat a friend or a stranger

Do something special to make someone else’s day, buy a coffee for the random person behind you in the queue in the café or have a cathartic clear out and deliver your unwanted good-as-new items to a charity shop. Is there a relative or a friend who is facing Valentine’s Day alone, perhaps for the first time? Book a visit in advance so that you both have something to look forward to on February 14th. Or be a really brave martyr and offer yourself as a babysitter so a couple you know can go out.

Let it out

Finally, if you are filled with dread as Valentine’s Day approaches don’t hold your feelings in, find a way to express them. Write them down, talk to a trusted friend or talk to Relate MTB about making an appointment with a professional relationship counsellor in confidence. Visit www.RelateMTB.co.uk for online advice or call 01628 625320 during office hours. You will also find information on our Facebook page – RelateMTB

Thanks to Connor Wells @thegoldenmafia at Unsplash for the image

 

 

Thank you to the Louis Baylis Trust

January 2018

The Louis Baylis Trust, funded by our local newspaper the Advertiser, has generously supported our training programme with a grant of £1,600.  This money will contribute to the help we are able to give to victims of domestic abuse.

Centre Director Fiona Greenfield says: “Often people do not recognise that the way they treat each other is wrong. Domestic abuse can be controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour between intimate partners or family members. At Relate MTB we identify what is going on and we can then put the right plans in place”.

Training is a vital part of Relate MTB’s counselling service. All our qualified counsellors must complete Relates’ own high standard of training in addition to regular ongoing training and clinical supervision. This ensures that all the local people who we help receive the best possible service, tailored to their specific needs, regardless of their ability to pay. While people who are in a position to pay a fee do so, our Bursary Funding Scheme means that those who are not, are not turned away.

With the loss of our charity shop, due to redevelopment in Maidenhead, and reducing grants available from local authorities, the loyal support we receive from the Louis Baylis Trust means so much to all of us at relate MTB as well as to our clients.

The bonus is the coverage we receive in the Advertiser, which raises awareness of our service to people who really need our help – and that is a far wider service than simply marriage guidance. In 2016-17 we delivered 4,677 hours of counselling to nearly 2,000 local people and that is only possible due to the support of our counsellors and charitable organisations within our local communities.

If you would you like to hold a fundraising event for Relate MTB please email: enquiries@relatemtb.co.uk

To find out more about the Louis Baylis Trust visit www.maidenhead-advertiser.co.uk

 

Sad news – Relate charity shop to close

Relate Mid Thames & Buckinghamshire (MTB) has had the Relate Charity Shop for 4 years to raise money for the Bursary Funding Scheme – this has enabled people to access high quality, professional relationship counselling regardless of whether they can afford the fee.  The shop will be sadly be opening its doors for the last time on Friday 5th January in the new year due to the demolishment of the Colonnade part of the Chapel Arches redevelopment.

But more than that, Fiona Greenfield, Centre Director, says it has become ‘a real community hub’ with people knowing they can drop in for a chat with Chris and to fuss Gracie, as well as picking up a bargain. The shop has gained a strong reputation as a ‘quirky, vintage-style boutique’.

Fiona wants to say a public thank you to Chris and Gracie (her dog), not just for the amount of money they have raised through their hard work and dedication, but also for acting as fantastic ambassadors for Relate MTB in the community. Also a massive thank you to all our loyal customers and for the amazingly kind donations over these past 4 years making it the shop that is  today.

Fiona says: “The town is going to be the poorer for not having Chris and Gracie, the Relate MTB shop and all the charity shops that make such a difference to our community above and beyond the money they raise. It has become a real community hub where everyone can call in and it’s such a shame that there isn’t a way that very low rent shops can be provided without having to rely on the goodwill of developers which means charity shops can have a very uncertain, short term future.”

                
Chris in the shop                                                                   Gracie helping to sort donations

Annual Meeting

Our wonderful and witty president, Tim Brooke-Taylor OBE joined us at the Relate MTB annual meeting.

We are very grateful to Tim, and to his wife, Christine, for giving their time and for supporting the valuable work that our counsellors do in our local communities.

Our Chair, Janice Campbell, outlined our progress in 2016-17 and the challenges facing us in the year ahead in raising money for our Bursary Funding Scheme and in meeting the demand for high quality, professional relationship counselling across East Berkshire and most of Buckinghamshire.

Relate MTB Trustee Rebecca Curley gave an insight into her role as a volunteer on the board and as an ambassador for Relate MTB in the community, spreading the word about our service and paying tribute to the counsellors saying: “I couldn’t be a Trustee without really believing in the people I am doing it for and the service you provide.”

Our Centre Director, Fiona Greenfield, thanked Rebecca and all the Trustees for their commitment and praised the Relate MTB counsellors and appointments and admin team for their skill and dedication.

Tim said: “Every year I come here and I’m reminded how worthwhile relate MTB’s service is. It is quite moving, I know how much goes into it and as President, I am very proud of the whole organisation.”

Shanly Foundation helps to build better relationships


Relate MTB’s Bursary Funding Scheme has received a generous donation from the Shanly Foundation.

Trustees have made a grant of £4,000 to our Bursary Funding Scheme, which will enable our team of counsellors to help local people build better relationships.

Relate MTB Centre Director, Fiona Greenfield, thanked the Shanly Foundation, saying: “Without the support of charitable organisations like the Shanly Foundation we simply would not be able to serve disadvantaged and vulnerable people within our local community, providing a high quality, reliable and confidential service for people who are feeling isolated and vulnerable.

“Thank you on behalf of our counsellors and all the people they help.”

For appointments and to find out more about Relate MTB counselling services, please call 01628 625320.

October 2017

Radio & TV times for counsellors

Our counsellors have taken to the airwaves and the small screen to spread the word about our work.

Marlow FM 97.5FM’s Mid-Morning Matters host, Mary Flavelle, interviewed a counsellor to discover the high level of training that goes into providing professional relationship counselling and the difference their help makes to local people.

Meanwhile community television station, That’s Thames Valley, featured our new counselling room in Windsor and gave viewers an insight into how accessible our counselling is and the wide range of issues that Relate MTB relationship counsellors can address.

Watch the full interview here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zK-mX6lzXnA&feature=youtu.be&a

For appointments and to find out more about Relate MTB counselling services, please call 01628 625320.

Picture shows Relate MTB’s new counselling room in Windsor featured on That’s Thames Valley.

October 2017

Chiltern District Council supports Relate MTB

Thank you to councillors who have recognised the difference that Relate MTB counselling makes to their community by supporting us.

Chiltern District Council has made a grant of £1,800 towards our Bursary Funding Scheme, enabling local residents to access professional relationship counselling regardless of their ability to pay.

Relate MTB Centre Director, Fiona Greenfield, said: “We are very grateful to councillors in Chiltern District for supporting our service for local residents, especially as we fully recognise the pressures on their budget. This grant will help us to make a much-needed and life-long difference to the lives of local families and individuals of all ages and backgrounds.”

For appointments and to find out more about Relate MTB counselling services, please call 01494 791180.

September 2017