Relationship problems during Covid-19 isolation

Relate MTB is open for web-counselling during the Covid-19 restrictions and our team of professional counsellors have put together essential tips to support your relationships during the isolation period.

We are continuing to provide counselling sessions to couples, families and individuals using a secure and confidential online platform so do not hesitate to get in touch through the contact page on our website or by emailing enquiries@relatemtb.co.uk 

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Advice from Relate MTB

Things were bad enough before! If your relationship was under strain already, understand that being together in the same home may bring problems to the surface. Our relationship counselling via webcam could help you work through things, email enquiries@relatemtb.co.uk for more information and visit our website to find out about our services.

‘We can’t stop arguing!’ – if you have been arguing over a particular issue, consider calling a truce during this period to make living under one roof more bearable. The chances are you are spending a lot more time together than ever before and that can be an additional strain as well as a benefit. The National Relate website has tips on how to deal with arguments.

Feeling overwhelmed – these are really tough times and it is OK to feel overwhelmed, frightened for those you love and anxiety over what the future holds. Try to understand that you and your partner may have different worries and priorities. Set aside time for cosy and calm chats, agreeing that you can talk honestly about your worries, acknowledging that you each may have differing priorities at this time. Pick up the phone to supportive friends and family and share your feelings for mutual support.

Struggling to adapt to the new routine – whether you live alone, as a couple or with your children these strange times feel uncertain for everyone. Have an open discussion about how your new routine is working for each person, remembering to listen as well as to talk, and encourage each member of the household to have their say, without judgement or criticism. Agree to re-visit the discussion after a few days or a week. Taking your exercise separately can give you time to yourself.

Your new working environment – working alongside each other in close confinement, perhaps for the first time, can be an opportunity or a challenge. We may act differently in our normal work environment to the way we behave at home. Your hours might be different, so be careful to respect times when your partner is working and you are not. Discuss between you whether you prefer to assign one room as the ‘office’ or use separate rooms, keep the topic open and be flexible about trying different arrangements to find one that works well for you both.

A busy working-from-home office – if you have adult children working at home it can be quite eye-opening to witness their professional persona, an opportunity to find a new respect for them. Try not to eavesdrop if possible and avoid judging or criticising them in their work but do remember to express praise and admiration in general terms.

How are your juggling skills? Teacher, parent, worker, housekeeper, carer, cook! It is difficult to think of more stressful circumstances than at the present time. Every day we are expected to juggle so many demanding roles and all the while cooped up together and without external help. Don’t have unrealistic expectations, be flexible and be kind to each other. Share roles and tasks, build in breaks for yourselves and grab time to relax together when possible.

Keep communicating – don’t be afraid to talk about how you are feeling, to each other and to trusted friends and family. There is so much help available online from professionals who understand and can support us all in through this difficult time. The feedback from our clients who have now transferred to web-counselling is that their experience has been overwhelmingly positive. Email us at enquiries@relatemtb.co.uk for more information and visit our website to find out about our services.

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